confusing boys

ok well due to my capitain obvious attitude that i love to apply in this blog. this blog is about, you guessed it, how those of the male persuation sometimes confuse those of the female persuation

guys confuse girls
girls confuse guys

i've seen this multiple times in facebook status's that the poor boyfriend does not understand the subtle hints that his girlfriend is flashing at him

unfortunantly he is blind to them. its ok. its not your fault. you just have an X and a Y instead of two X's, so of course there is going to be confusion.

my good friend alex, and the ex that  i went to prom with, was having a bad day and was complaining about not being able to get a date. so i told him what i had told him a few times before
"THE WORLD DOES NOT REVOLVE AROUND THE OPPOSITE SEX!"
-because well it doesnt

do you think romeo and juliet automatically understood each other when they met?
probably not
just ponder that for a minute
then move on to the next part of this blog
once your done pondering of course
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ok done? good

so heres the real reason i'm writing a blog about why guys are confusing

one reason is because i got bored and asked my friends again to give me ideas, because i couldnt think of anything wildly witty to write about at the moment
and my good friend rylee (the one suggested a blog about feet and turtles) suggested i write a blog about "write about guys and if they like a girl they should do something about it instead of just giving her weird looks all the time and being a chicken."

just by having major girl powers/ intuition, that are semi close to those of a master jedi, i figured out she is having troubles with a boy and i think it might be at work because she encounters a lot of cute diver guys at her work.

the other reason is that i too am confused by boys sometimes
ok sometimes i can read them like a book
and sometimes i'm totally clueless
thank god i have friends that have more experience then me

but your not alone
its an issue that will never be solved- sorry to burst your bubble
the never ending statement "i dont get him/her!!"

theres been many novels,articls and collums about the differences between the sexes and how we dont understand each other.
so being the person i am, and if i dont know something i will go "research" it,i actually have one of those books,i know who'd thought i'd ever stoop to that level. but i got it a few years ago and its entitiled "guys are waffles, girls are spaghetti"
it talks about how guys compartmentalize stuff into sections like the boxes in a waffle.
and it talks about how everything in a girls life are connected like how each noodle in a pile of spaghetti touches mulitple other noodles
its quite interesting actually

i'm actually both
i have different aspects of my life and when something from one section trys to be in another, i sort of freak
ex- current crushes and dumb ex's- they dont mix well

but i also there are things that do belong in mulitple boxes
ex- band - family, school, music, friends- the mix nicely

so i'm waffles and spaghetti in some ways
- i know, i'm just unique

so now i'm FINALLY going to answer rylees question
why is that boy giving her weird looks and wont do anything
as in the next move of asking out on a date

well hes probably scared to death
inside all of us is that one thing that can make us turn into enormous globs of jelly instead of the strong person we are
its not you rylee. ok maybe its a little you, but its not your fault.
theres so much personality and you there, he doesnt know what to do.
hes probably just afraid you'll say no
which quite frankly is one of the main reasons why i sometimes fail to snag a relationship sometimes

i'm a big chicken when it comes to stuff like that
i have a lot of pride and i'm a bit self concious. so if someone deny's me i wwaaaaay over think it.
i think "he must think i'm crazy, and wont talk to me ever again, and ohh god why did i do that i'm sooo stupid."
on and on until i'm on the floor in my bedroom with a carton of icecream crying over it because i over thought it
whatever you do
DONT END UP LIKE THAT!

just give him hints that you like him
and give him weird looks back if he ever gives you those
and if hes not catching anything hes not worth your time
there are tons of fish in the sea

but if you do snag him good job :)

heres some rulesto follow

1-be honest about your feelings- very big piece of advice!
2-dont go too fast- another good piece
3-go at your own pace
4-dont let others influence what you should and shouldnt do
5-listen to your heart- ok that one sounds straight out of a romance novel
6-just be yourself no matter what


see heres the problem with having confusing boys, or confusing girls
sometimes we dont live by those rules and someone gets hurt. and then it gets complicated.

girls try to give hints to guys to let them know that they like them
and sometimes they dont get the message or interpret it wrong.
the problem is we are two different people
hes a guy
your a girl

the trick is to find a way to communicate with the opposite sex

guys always think girls are so complicated
and girls always think guys are so dumb to their hints


from what i've found out, the opposite sex likes the same tricks that you use on them.
so if you like to be complimented and feel good about yourself
so does the opposited sex
were reciprocal
just treat them how you would want to be treated

be genuine
be nice
be honest
compliment them
dont belittle them
be supportive
dont complain
just be an extra good friend
care for them sometimes more then they care for themselves
notice details that may be very important
be your wonderful self
and its totally fine to be confused

so rylee all i can say is
just be yourself and treat others how you would like to be treated
and maybe drop some big hints

good luck with that boy
i hope it helps :)


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